HOW TO ACCEPT A COMPLIMENT


It wasn't until I was in my early 20s when I learned how to take a compliment. Prior to that I thought I was okay at taking compliments. I mean, I'd never really given it much thought before. Someone would pay me a compliment and it would go something like this:

them: "I like your hair!"
me: "Really? I didn't even wash it…but thanks!"

them: "Cute shirt!"
me: "Thanks! I got it on sale at (insert store here)"

them: "You look nice today!"
me: "Seriously?! I'm SO tired! I was up until midnight and could barely drag myself out of bed today."

You see what's going on? Yeah. Someone would give me a compliment and I'd ramble on. Until one day my (now ex) boss stopped me and pointed out that I wasn't good at receiving compliments and told me what to do. Since then, I've passed on this sage piece of advice to many, many, people because I've noticed that taking a compliment is something that a lot of people don't do very well.

So what's the trick?

The next time someone pays you a compliment respond like this:

"thank you"

That's it.

It seems easy but the first few times you'll feel a bit odd. Like you should be saying more. But don't. There. That's the secret.

BEAUTY ON THE OUTSIDE

You know that saying, "look good, feel good"? It's so true. As much as feeling "beautiful" starts on the inside and feeling good on the inside, who ever says feeling and looking good on the outside doesn't matter is lying. Though I usually don't take the time to really put a lot of effort into my "outside," when I do, I feel great. Nay, amazing. So while I have plans to start going back to the gym next month (it was always my plan to take a 'break' during the winter months) I've recently been putting more effort into my outside appearance. I'm in the midst of purging my entire wardrobe (I'll be shocked if I have more than 20 pieces left at the end…I'm being ruthless y'all) and have been investing in some new beauty products.

Here's the thing when it comes to beauty products. I think I've mentioned it before, but it is totally normal for me to go completely sans makeup on a day-to-day basis. Like, 100% natural. However, for the past few months I've been making the effort to at least wear concealer (I have crazy mad dark circles under my eyes), a bit of mascara, and maybe a bit of blush. While to most people I probably still look like I'm wearing nothing, I feel more polished. However, I'm feeling the urge to "step it up" a little bit in 2015 (remember one of my goals this year is to have more fun with my personal style) so I've recently found some beauty bloggers and vloggers who I quite enjoy and have been taking notes of things I'd like to try and potentially buy. Note: there are SO many beauty bloggers/vloggers out there that finding the ones that you think are quality is such a HUGE task! If you have any favourites please share in the comments!

Anyways, here's a few things I've picked up recently. As you can see, it's not a lot. I'm a weird oxymoron. I'm frugal and so I really consider purchases before investing (regardless of the cost) and try to get samples when possible - but on the other hand, I will totally invest in something if I feel that it's worth the money…so much like my apartment my beauty products tend to be a mix of high and low.


Tom Ford's BLACK ORCHID: I've wanted this perfume forever and was pleasantly surprised when my mom got it for me this past Christmas. / Fashion Fair LACE lipstick: My first purchase from this brand; it's a wonderful neutral for my skin tone. Yay for vlogger recommendations! / Though technically not a 'new' purchase I rediscovered my MAC CHESTNUT lipliner in my bathroom cabinet. I saws on the verge of going to buy it because it's the perfect neutral lip liner for us dark skinned girls but knew I had one in my apartment somewhere so I was happy to find it! / APOCALYPTIC lip lacquer from Rimmel: Another vlogger recommendation - brighter and glossier than I usually go but maybe a nice change? We'll see. / DEWY FINISHING SPRAY from NYX: I've never really used a finishing spray before - in the past when I've wanted that dewy finish to my makeup I normally apply my foundation and then take my shower taking care not to wet my face (the steam from the shower gives the makeup the perfectly dewy finish) / This winter has been doing a number on my skin - it's SO cold and my skin has become SO DRY that I'm at a loss of what to do. I've heard Eucerin is supposed to be super hydrating so I've been using their REPLENISHING FACE CREME WITH 5% UREA - to be honest, I'm meh about it but mixed with a bit of avocado & almond oil (a mixture I use on my hair) it's ok. / Did you know that Sephora also samples perfume? I had no idea. I knew they sampled everything in there but for some reason I only recently realized that they also sample perfume. My all-time favourite and "signature" scent is Christian Dior's HYPNOTIC POISON but I'm branching out a bit, still sticking with 'darker, muskier' scents so I'm trying out Marc Jacob's MARC JACOBS and OPIUM  and BLACK OPIUM both by YSL. I like all of them and will probably be back with a review in the next few weeks.

A few more products I have my eyes on to try out and potentially add to my collection:

Bioderma remover / Nars TRAIN BLEU lip pencil / Milani VIOLET VOLT lipstick / Nars SCARLET EMPRESS lip stick / Kat Von D TATTOO LINER eye liner / Nars OUTLAW blush / First Aid Beauty ULTRA REPAIR CREAM

#SelmaIsNow

I'm an awards show watcher. There, I said it. And if you're an awards show watcher, like I am, you know that the awards show of the year is The Oscars. It's the only awards show that I'll also watch the red carpet for because, I mean, how can you not. All this to say that yesterday the Oscars Red Carpet started at about 6:30pm and the show ended just after (or before) midnight. That's a lot of TV. With that much TV it might be hard for some to pick a highlight but not for me. Hands down the standout of the Oscars was Common and John Legend's performance of the goose-bump inducing 'Glory.'

 

It was incredible and it's one of those things that I'm so glad I saw "live" because it was really something that just had you glued to the screen. It was powerful. It brought grown men to tears in the audience. So how could a moment that was a 100 out of 10 get any better? When 'Glory' was announced as Best Original Song and they accepted the award, the speech they gave took it from 100 to 1000. It was moving and powerful.
[Common]...Recently, John and I got to go to Selma and perform “Glory” on the same bridge that Dr. King and the people of the civil rights movement marched on 50 years ago. This bridge was once a landmark of a divided nation, but now is a symbol for change. The spirit of this bridge transcends race, gender, religion, sexual orientation, and social status. The spirit of this bridge connects the kid from the South side of Chicago, dreaming of a better life to those in France standing up for their freedom of expression to the people in Hong Kong protesting for democracy. This bridge was built on hope. Welded with compassion. And elevated by love for all human beings. [John Legend]...We wrote this song for a film that was based on events that were 50 years ago, but we say Selma is now, because the struggle for justice is right now. We know that the voting rights, the act that they fought for 50 years ago is being compromised right now in this country today. We know that right now the struggle for freedom and justice is real. We live in the most incarcerated country in the world. There are more black men under correctional control today than were under slavery in 1850. When people are marching with our song, we want to tell you that we are with you, we see you, we love you, and march on.
And I'd be remiss if I didn't mention the red carpet. My top 5, overall, of the evening goes to (in order of most favourite):
Jennifer Lopez / Emma Stone / Jenna Dewan Tatum / Gwyneth Paltrow / Jennifer Aniston

Favourite beauty looks:
Kerry Washington / Chrissy Teigen / Marion Cotillard / Jamie Chung

Can't forget the men:
Eddie Redmayne / David Oyelowo / Michael Keaton

So, did you watch? What did you think? Any stand out speeches or performances? Best dressed?

TMI (AKA. 23 RANDOM QUESTIONS)


It's FRIDAY! Yay for short weeks, right?

Usually when I'm washing the dishes and tidying up the kitchen I watch YouTube videos to help pass them time. It somehow makes the whole tedious process of tidying up my kitchen bearable and, dear I say it, enjoyable. Many of the vloggers I watch have, at some point or another, done one of those TMI tags so I thought…might be fun to do one here! So here we go - 23 random questions you probably never would have thought to ask me answered…honestly. (Oh and that candle in the picture above? So good).

01. What are you wearing?
Pajamas and a light cotton robe.

02. Any tattoos? 
Yes.

03. Quality you look for in a partner?
Open-minded. Intelligent. Respectful. Caring. Sense of adventure.

04. Favourite quote?
"It's never too late to become who you might have been." - George Elliot
"Nothing happens until you decide." - Oprah
"When someone shows you who they are believe them; the first time." - Maya Angelou

05. Favourite colour?
Black, midnight blue, gold…this watermelon shade (coincidentally the colours of the flowers in the photo above).

06. Favourite dessert?
A really good slice of strawberry cheesecake.

07. Love or career
Love?

08. How long does it take you to get ready in the morning?
10 minutes?

09. Turn off & turn on
Arrogance & intolerance / intelligence

10. Last thing that made you cry?
Probably some sappy commercial. This tragic story; I got very, very teary.

11. Fears
The older I get the more I fear death. Also, those real life "whodunit" tv shows…where they're trying to solve a real case…I can't watch those. Extreme heights.

12. Favourite beauty products?
NARS radiant creamy concealer.

13. Book you're currently reading?
The Underground Girls of Kabul

14. Last person you texted?
A friend while watching 'How To Get Away With Murder' - we "watch" it together!

15. Favourite food?
Noodles? Chicken? Eggs? Hakka Chilli Fish?

16. Place you want to visit?
Ethiopia, Uzbekistan, Morocco, Italy, Tanzania…the Middle East - when it's safe obviously

17. Favourite piece of jewelry
Some pieces I brought back from India…a necklace I bought in Egypt and always misplace

18. Last sport you played
Hockey with my 3-year-old niece for fun

19. Last song you sang
This. It was the last song I heard on the radio before I got out of my car. But that's more like "the last song I rapped" - so maybe this was the last song I sang.

20. Last time you hung out with someone?
Valentine's Day. Had a single ladies sushi dinner at one of my friend's house. Fun!

21. Bands you grew up with
I'm a child of the 90's so…TLC, Backstreet Boys, Boys II Men, No Doubt, N'Sync…I could go on and on...

22. Something you miss?
I kinda miss the time before social media…the constant temptation to "check-in" or "browse" is all to real. But then again, there's a lot that I love about social media. It's a double-edged sword for sure.

23. What are your dreams?
To be happy: fulfilled, satisfied, loved.

+ questions via

DAS / 02


Time for another round up of links to things I found particularly noteworthy over the past little while.

01. I'm a kid of the 90s so when I saw this reunion it made my entire week and was pure nostalgia. How is it possible that they've not aged and basically all look the exact same? Crazy. Jimmy Fallon gets mad props for making this happen.

02. Also, this lip synch performance is everything (first 2 minutes). You know, I think I might just need to add Fallon to my regular TV watching…

03. You guys know I'm all about turning my little apartment into an indoor jungle - so if you're all about plants too and aren't sure where to start, start here.

04. I need to print out these life lessons, written by a 90-year-old woman, and put it on my fridge.

05. Finally watched this movie and laughed so hard. If you're just looking for a light, fun, movie I'd recommend it.

06. There are a lot of places in the world I want to visit and, admittedly, Mexico hasn't been very high on my list. BUT it's quickly moving up thanks to posts like this. I kinda want to go to Tulum asap - doesn't it look beautiful?

07. This is pretty accurate.

08. A reminder that despite the perfectly curated pictures shared on instagram, most people have a story they aren't sharing. Everything's not always what it seems so please don't judge a life by an instagram feed (I know it's hard not to! I'm guilty of judging too).

09. What's it like to quit your day job and start your own business. Some good advice included.

10. F#ck success.

Enjoy the long weekend! If I was thinking, I would've booked yesterday off of work resulting in FOUR DAYS OFF. But I wasn't. So three days will have to suffice. I'm not complaining; I'll take it!

+image originally from Adore magazine